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Many Mini Life Changes, bullying Books, Anger management books & Sibling Rivalry Books

11 May

Resolving problems with friends

Posted in Uncategorized on 11.05.10 by Merlyn

My daughter is 13 and we have regular talks about all issues to do with friendship. I am often struck by how important it is for kids to ask the question ” What do I want from this friendship and what does my friend want?” This question usually provides a very interesting answer.

When friendships get into difficulty it is quite often because both are looking for different things. No blame needs to be attached. It is about learning what we all need and can give. If this balances then we have a working friendship.

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11 May

Politicians and socio-emotional skills

Posted in Uncategorized on 11.05.10 by Merlyn

As a Scot living in Ireland I have been watching the negotiations in the UK Parliament with some interest. Politicians are learning to collaborate with erstwhile opponents and this seems to be causing them some angst, however, nearly everywhere else in Europe this is how politics is done.

Isn’t the idea of negotiated coalition the way we live? Our marriages and our sibling relationships rely on it. The way we work in the workplace and  make friends is based ‘give and take’. Some of our most stable relationships are negotiated coalitions, ask any couple who has been married for 50 years!

The question is not whether coalition government can provide “strong decision making and leadership” but whether the UK parliament have politicians with the kind of skills needed to make it work. It is not rocket science. Unlikely coalitions are sustained all the time in our society. It is maybe time for Westminister to move away from positioning and arguing about “right and wrong”  and embrace the more open-minded world of coalition government. It is far more representative of how society works.  The skills they have used to win votes can be put to far better use for us all.

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05 May

Teacher Training

Posted in Uncategorized on 05.05.10 by Merlyn

One of the most important parts of the work we are doing in Drumcondra Education Centre is to create Teacher Training Programmes. There are four for this summer, all focusing on teaching conflict resolution and mediation skills ( details from www.ecdrumcondra.ie). We are seeing more clearly than ever before the importance of teaching our children socio-emotional skills. With these skills, they enter adulthood better prepared to deal with the relationships and issues of everyday life.

The teacher training we are doing is designed to enable teachers to become skilled themselves, as well as teaching children. This can help to make school a better place for everyone.

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