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27 Jul

School Holidays and rowing children

Posted in Uncategorized on 27.07.10 by Merlyn

Well, we are now in the middle of the summer holidays and, while they are great fun, there can be times when parents are tested as their children have rows in the back of the car, fight over games and toys or moan and complain about each other. It can be very waring!

We have done a special download on our site for the summer holidays with handy tips for parents. The main point to be made is that we can help our children to learn how to sort out there own rows just like we can teach them how to read and write. It might take some time and patience but it is worth it in the long run.

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27 Jul

Sibling Rivalry and British Politics

Posted in Uncategorized on 27.07.10 by Merlyn

I have just come back from a few days in the UK. The media is full of commentary on the fact that two of the candidates for Labour Party Leadership (the political party who have just left government) are brothers.  The coverage is focusing on apparent comments that each are making about the other and the fact that it can’t be possible to go through such a contest without fracturing the sibling relationship.

Now, I don’t know either of them but I do know that the only people who are aware of any strain are the two brothers themselves. All brothers an sisters develop habits of throwing comments at each other very early on in their relationship. Quite often these can sound a lot more damaging to other people but are part of the general cut and thrust of sibling life. Brothers and sisters can row one minute and love each other the next. The intimate life of such a family tie is very hard to understand form outside.

Siblings are used to dealing with all types of competition within their relationship, from playing childhood games to dealing with the aspirations of parents. It can be argued that the sibling relationship may be more resilient to such political battles than many friendships.

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11 Jul

Conflict in Schools

Posted in Uncategorized on 11.07.10 by Merlyn

I have spent the last week teaching a Conflict Resolution Skills Course for teachers. The course was on the S.A.L.T.Programme (www.learninghorizons.ie) , which I wrote three years ago. The programme teaches a simple conflict resolution process

S-Stop.    Cool Down. Speak calmly and clearly about what is wrong.

A- Ask.     Remember that it is better to try and sort this out together.

L-Listen.  Listen to the other person and find out what is wrong.

T-Talk.     Talk about what you can both do to resolve the problem.

This process is taught in schools as part of the SALT Programme  and is for all ages of Primary School.

The course I do in Drumcondra Education Centre teaches teachers how to implement the programme, as well as added skills they need to resolve their own conflicts.

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11 Jul

TV3 Appearance

Posted in Uncategorized on 11.07.10 by Merlyn

I have been asked to appear on IRELANDAM on the 19th of July at 9.20am. This is to talk about sibling rows. How can parents sort the rows their children have out and have a more peaceful summer.  There will also be a download from our website www.resolvingbooks.com. on the subject.

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