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28 Apr

Lack of School Resources means more Bullying?

Posted in Uncategorized on 28.04.11 by Merlyn

At the Annual Easter Conferences the teachers unions discussed many things. Amongst them what the issue raised that teaching positions left empty made it more likely that bullying and absenteeism would rise.
This makes it all the more important to teach young people the socio-emotional skills they need to cope with these issues themselves, where possible. If we are coming to a time where we face such pubic service cuts we must look at how we can enable our kids to help themselves.

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28 Apr

New Book

Posted in Uncategorized on 28.04.11 by Merlyn

Peter and I are about to launch a new book. This time it is for adults. It is called “Living With Separation and Divorce” and is full of information and ideas to help peopel who are oging through this difficult time.
This book is based on my work as a mediator working with couples who are separating. I have met many couples who have found a way to stop the fighting and managed to make their separation a more tolerable time. It is hard but possible.
This new book will help and will be available from the end of May.

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02 Feb

Schools hold the key

Posted in Uncategorized on 02.02.11 by Merlyn

iI was listening to a workshop yesterday that was talking about Solicitors and the law being the main gate keepers of conflict resolution. While I think that is true up to a point I think that it is actually the schools and teachers. It is through those years that we learn what conflict is and how to resolve it. By the time we come out of school a lot of our ideas are already formed. We want to fight to win instead of finding a win/win solution.
There are so many school programmes now which should mean that the next generation of children will be better at sorting out their disputes without going to the courts.

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02 Feb

the Isolation of bullying

Posted in Uncategorized on 02.02.11 by Merlyn

It is important to remember that when someone is being bullied they feel increasingly isolated. The first thing that we need to do is to listen to how they feel and support them. We might have views about what should be done but the most important thing we can do is to stop the person feeling alone.

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02 Feb

Imperfect Parents

Posted in Uncategorized on 02.02.11 by Merlyn

Our children are very lucky that we are not perfect. Imagine what it would be like for them when they finally left home! They would go out into the world and expect everyone to understand them and to behave impeccably towards them. Instead they get the chance to live in a real family with parents who love them but make mistakes too. They get the chance to make mistakes with others that do the same, they learn how to listen to others (despite their own views), negotiate differences and most important of all…………..to apologise and to forgive. Being imperfect is one of the best things we do for our kids.

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20 Jan

A Calm House

Posted in Uncategorized on 20.01.11 by Merlyn

Things are now calm. My son has cooled down and is listening to my daughter playing Schindler’s list on the violin. The adrenalin has subsided.
Its safe for me to leave the computer room now!

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20 Jan

Election Issues in Ireland

Posted in Uncategorized on 20.01.11 by Merlyn

We are now entering an election campaign and our doorsteps are going to be festooned with politicians wanting our vote. So, what are our election issues? I will be talking to them about the welfare of our children and the referendum we are supposed to have on Children’s Rights. We also need to speak up for special needs education and care. Our children seem to come at the bottom of the list too often when it comes to resources and services. We have to be their voice.

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20 Jan

Family Conflict and Schools

Posted in Uncategorized on 20.01.11 by Merlyn

I was doing a workshop with teachers yesterday. They were all Year Heads in a secondary school. We talked about how they can sometimes find themselves in the middle of family conflict. When things are bad at home kids can feel unsettled at school. One of the main problems then is that there are not enough services to help children quickly and the teachers are left trying to cope with situations that they are not trained for. Teachers are doing their best but more needs to be done to provide support for families in our communities.

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20 Jan

Angry children

Posted in Uncategorized on 20.01.11 by Merlyn

As I write this, I am listening to my 12 year old son, in a fit of temper, slamming his hands down on the piano shouting that he is never thanked for any of the work he does. My husband, who is supposed to be overseeing the practice, is standing outside the room suggesting I might throw one of the books I have written in to the room and wait and see what happens……..

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17 Jan

New Year Launch

Posted in Uncategorized on 17.01.11 by Merlyn

Happy New Year. Our new book is now published and hitting the shops. It is called Resolving Bereavement and is for anybody helping children coping with loss. We are delighted that Fergus Findlay, CEO of Barnardos Ireland, has endorsed the series with a comment on the back. We helps it helps many children.

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